Few Can Make a Difference

  “If one ember is left alight, no matter how dimly it smolders, a fire will eventually break out.”

 –Robert Greene

What do you think happens when someone tries to do something and no matter what that person does he or she always fails? Of course that individual will lose morale and get sick of the constant failure that is plaguing him/her and consequently just give up with the inner feeling that he/she is just doomed.

This is the feeling that we have been living with for the past two decades. However I want to stress one point: ‘when you hit rock bottom, the only way out is up.‘ Wars are inevitable in life. They have been happening since the dawn of humanity.WWI & II was caused by the Europeans. They were fighting for power, dominance, resources and ideology. Those two wars had caused unimaginable loses of lives. There was pain, desperation and great sufferings. It had destroyed the whole continent of Europe.

Since what was happening in Europe was an internal struggle, the Europeans and their leaders embarked on a mission to end their vicious circle. They figured out a way to externalize their internal struggle and the solution for them was the so called “scramble for Africa” which led to the colonization period. In retrospect, their move was inhumane and immoral.

Coming back to my point, we all have to find a healthy way of externalizing our struggle. I say this because of the peculiar things that are happening in our country. For a start, one of the funniest phenomenon that has developed in our society is that almost  everyone is talking about politics and every man you meet is aspiring to be the president of the country or at least hold a political office. I wonder the man who said “every man in Somalia is his own Sultan.” was right

The only reason I think we are experiencing this strange phenomenon is because our people especially our teenagers have nothing to do. They have no other activities that interest and capture their imagination. They barely have any role models. What do you expect them to do when all they hear and witness and watch from the TVs are the chronic and the unending political and social entanglements that our country is going through?  The ugly truth is that there is nothing else that diverts their attention- the fact that even aspiring to be a professional sportsman/woman is stigma and discouraged by the overwhelming majority doesn’t help either.

I know deep in my heart that there are many great men and women out there who are patriotic. They are disheartened by what is happening in our country. I also know that they truly want to contribute and make a difference regardless of how small their contributions are. I also know that somehow you feel outnumbered and isolated and that you felt like the individual who approached the insane group and tried to make sense to them and at the end was accused of being insane himself, ha-ha.

You don’t need to feel that way. You don’t need to think and say what I can do alone. What you need to remember and do is to continue your struggle and know with great conviction that you are not alone and that few can make a difference and change the destiny of many.

Products of Nature & Nurture

When we are young, our mind is fresh and our heart bold. We are full of dreams and hopes. We are full of  imaginations and curiosity.We are also free of biases and prejudices. We feel like we can do and achieve everything  that we set our minds on. We are not afraid of failure and see no limits to all the things that we can achieve.

 As we grow up, the people, experiences and the surroundings around us start effecting and influencing us. They start shaping our thoughts and perceptions about many things in life. Parents who are the first circle of trust for children are the ones that have the greatest impact on our way of thinking and seeing life. They instill in us many basic values such as speaking of the truth, justice, what is right and wrong and how to behave in certain occasions. They give us a sense of direction in life as they at this moment are our first role models. We also have to bear in mind that at this stage children are the most observant. They may forget many things as time passes by but still traces of many events and experiences will remain in their subconscious.

Whether it is negative or positive, it is this framework of mind and thought process generated through nature and nurture that shapes our attitude and outlook of life. Clearly parents have a major influence on their children. Many studies have recently shown that children who are brought up in healthy and stable environments are more likely to lead a happy and balanced life.

On the other hand, children who are brought up in a dysfunctional family where the environment is poisonous suffer from many psychological problems. Imagine you are growing up in a home where you don’t have a role model and you are constantly ridiculed and belittled. You are always criticized and told you can’t do this, you can’t do that. Of course, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out how all this negative and unhealthy environment will greatly effect your attitude.The chances are that you will start to believe all this nonsense and register them in your head. Your confidence and morale will take a direct hit and as a result you will grow up convinced or at least thinking that you are good for nothing. That is why it is imperative that parents/guardians make sure their children grow up in a healthy environment.

I have been lately observing and hearing about a rising trend in our society which I strongly believe is counter-productive. I see a lot of young students who are enrolled in subjects which are not of their own choosing. They have no interest and passion for studying those subjects and yet they keep going to classes and feel miserable. When you ask them why are you studying these particular subjects if you don’t like them? Their answer is always the same: Parents told us or insisted that we do this. I know parents have at heart the best interest of their children as they want their children to be successful one day. At the same time it is important that parents let their sons and daughters pursue their own dreams and aspirations. Instead of sitting on the driving seat, parents should take the passenger seat and let their children become the drivers of their own dreams and aspirations.

There are many difficult circumstances and challenges in life. You will have your share of set backs and disappointments. You will come across naysayers,pessimists and people who want to put you down. The best way to ride the storm is to always remember who you really are. Have faith and confidence in yourself . Have patience,perseverance and never lose hope. Surely the dark clouds above will pass.