Products of Nature & Nurture

When we are young, our mind is fresh and our heart bold. We are full of dreams and hopes. We are full of  imaginations and curiosity.We are also free of biases and prejudices. We feel like we can do and achieve everything  that we set our minds on. We are not afraid of failure and see no limits to all the things that we can achieve.

 As we grow up, the people, experiences and the surroundings around us start effecting and influencing us. They start shaping our thoughts and perceptions about many things in life. Parents who are the first circle of trust for children are the ones that have the greatest impact on our way of thinking and seeing life. They instill in us many basic values such as speaking of the truth, justice, what is right and wrong and how to behave in certain occasions. They give us a sense of direction in life as they at this moment are our first role models. We also have to bear in mind that at this stage children are the most observant. They may forget many things as time passes by but still traces of many events and experiences will remain in their subconscious.

Whether it is negative or positive, it is this framework of mind and thought process generated through nature and nurture that shapes our attitude and outlook of life. Clearly parents have a major influence on their children. Many studies have recently shown that children who are brought up in healthy and stable environments are more likely to lead a happy and balanced life.

On the other hand, children who are brought up in a dysfunctional family where the environment is poisonous suffer from many psychological problems. Imagine you are growing up in a home where you don’t have a role model and you are constantly ridiculed and belittled. You are always criticized and told you can’t do this, you can’t do that. Of course, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out how all this negative and unhealthy environment will greatly effect your attitude.The chances are that you will start to believe all this nonsense and register them in your head. Your confidence and morale will take a direct hit and as a result you will grow up convinced or at least thinking that you are good for nothing. That is why it is imperative that parents/guardians make sure their children grow up in a healthy environment.

I have been lately observing and hearing about a rising trend in our society which I strongly believe is counter-productive. I see a lot of young students who are enrolled in subjects which are not of their own choosing. They have no interest and passion for studying those subjects and yet they keep going to classes and feel miserable. When you ask them why are you studying these particular subjects if you don’t like them? Their answer is always the same: Parents told us or insisted that we do this. I know parents have at heart the best interest of their children as they want their children to be successful one day. At the same time it is important that parents let their sons and daughters pursue their own dreams and aspirations. Instead of sitting on the driving seat, parents should take the passenger seat and let their children become the drivers of their own dreams and aspirations.

There are many difficult circumstances and challenges in life. You will have your share of set backs and disappointments. You will come across naysayers,pessimists and people who want to put you down. The best way to ride the storm is to always remember who you really are. Have faith and confidence in yourself . Have patience,perseverance and never lose hope. Surely the dark clouds above will pass.

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6 thoughts on “Products of Nature & Nurture

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  2. You are very right when you say that it is in the home that a child learns and a major part of his upbringing is reflected in his or her character.But even if one does not have the best childhood it should not be assumed that you be a failure all your life.A wise person is one who learns from his mistakes and the mistakes of others.Try to be a good person.Try to be patient in life and work hard and know that somethings are not in ones control.This may sound easy but it is not that simple.It takes years of practice and perseverance.The rule is simple,if you want to change others,you first have to be the change.If you become good then the whole society becomes good.JazakAllah

  3. “Surely the dark clouds above will pass.” Nice conclusion and very well written article as well. Well done bro!

  4. I give it 5 star. Brilliant article touching a very important issue. One of the best you’ve written.

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